This reaction might come in a form of though or feeling or emotion or any combination of those - which you might end up acting it out through words and/or actions.
The most subtle form of reaction is the thought that only you "hear" and that you do not express through words and/or actions. It is your secret, it is your back chat.
This back chat might be just one thought or might be a stream of thoughts - regardless, it is still back chat and it still is a reaction.
If this back chat is not dealt with - in other words, if you do not forgive yourself for "thinking such" and you accept that thought as "who you are" - it will remain imprinted within your mind - in your subconscious and/or unconscious - and will create the "space/possibility" to accumulate with future reactions and end up manifesting physically, which will then lead to the "break up" itself: it will get to a point where you "can't take it no more" - a physical discomfort - and the break up takes place and both will "no longer be together".
This does not mean that in the next relationship things will start from "zero" - quite the opposite: all previous relationship constructs will remain within you as subconscious and unconscious memories and this will direct the "new relationship" - it will be the "auto pilot", the "standard running mode/mood" -- the doom...
Simply look at your current relationship (or past relationship) and see how it relates with your previous ones. Do you see how you are repeating "the same shit"? The same fears, the same jealousy, the same regret, the same uncertainty, the same reactions, the same apathy, the same blame game, the same control, the same manipulation... The same as our parents...
This is just the tip of the iceberg.
Who do we change this? How can we stop creating the same mistakes? How do we stop living according to the past/memory?
Whenever there is a reaction from your partner: do not react back. Stop, breathe, take a moment to see what is causing her/his reaction (this can be done in one breathe) and DIRECT THE POINT: make him/her see that he/she is not being who he/she really is as Equal and One with and as Life, Here, and if necessary apply self forgiveness (preferably with your partner) to release the energetic charge that caused the reaction.
Whenever you react to your partner (whether you "express" it or not): Stop, breathe and take a moment to see what is the origin point of YOUR reaction and DIRECT THE POINT. If necessary apply self forgiveness (preferably with your partner) to release the energetic charge that caused the reaction.
See - it is all about stopping ALL re-actions. Re-actions are not self willed actions. They are always RE-sponses we "act out/make" according to our ego/personality. Therefore, never react to a reaction - always ACT - within it it is implied that one is directing oneself AND within it one is being self honest.
Yes, it is very easy place "what to do" in words --- to actually do it is quite another thing. Nonetheless, it is at everyone's reach if only there is a good dose of self will to change, determination and dedication to the process of facing one's ego/personality and, obviously, self-honesty to make sure one is not fucking with oneself within the whole process.
Within this, a relation-ship is no longer a relation-ship and it becomes an Agreement: because the SHIP of the RELATION between the two egos/personalities will no longer be adrift in the ocean of e-motions (energetic motions) and as such it will never sink.
(thus) The Agreement itself is the assistance and support each individual agrees to GIVE oneself and each other within each one's individual process of self realization.
If "love" can be said to exist between two (or more) beings, this Agreement IS IT!
If you are looking for someone to "love you for who you are" - which is to say that you are looking for someone to "love all the bullshit that you have become and the fact that you are so full of your(self) personality/ego that you cannot even consider changing"... Good luck! An Agreement is not for you and you will either sink every ship of all relations you get yourself into or you will be in a shipwreck tolerating someone's bullshit and having the other tolerating your bullshit for the rest of your wrecked "life".
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